How To Parent A Child With ADHD: Helpful Tips For Parents
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Mar 20, 2017
Has your son ever lost points on a test or assignment because he did not follow all the directions? Does your daughter highlight everything when she reads and as a result can’t figure out what to study? Does your son complain about how his teacher is “torturing him” because he does not see the point of the assignment? If any of these common scenarios sound familiar, you may find yourself wondering, “Why does my child miss the big picture?”
First, let’s look at the skills involved in seeing the big picture, or the gestalt. The term gestalt means realizing that something is more than the sum of its individual parts — viewing the parts together allows you to see the full picture. Say, for example, a student is writing a paragraph in a lab report on the methods she used for a biology class experiment. First, the ability to shift her focus from a small detail (“Use the correct punctuation in this sentence.”) to a wider lens (“Keep this paragraph on-topic and use the correct sequence.”) requires the Executive Function skill of cognitive flexibility. When students can fluidly zoom in and out of small detail to big picture thinking, they successfully understand not only what is expected, but why they are doing it. They can put themselves in a teacher’s shoes and infer what she is looking for. Second, to go a step further, the ability to accurately see the gestalt involves another Executive Function skill: metacognition, which is the ability to self-monitor our thinking and problem solving. In the example of the lab report, the student uses her metacognitive skills to zoom out and look at the big picture in terms of deeper self-assessment. She may ask herself, “Does this contain enough information so that the experiment can be replicated exactly?” or “Did I set myself up for addressing sources of error in my discussion section later in the lab report?”
To recap, the ability for your child to see the big picture relies upon his ability to understand what is expected of him and why it is relevant, in addition to being able to self-assess along the way.
No wonder it’s so hard for many students to see the big picture — cognitive flexibility and metacognition are evolving skills for children throughout their school years. Moreover, students vary in the rate at which they develop Executive Function skills. Add in challenges such as ADHD, autism spectrum, or other learning differences and you can start to imagine why big picture thinking is difficult for many students, yet it is so important for success in school.
The explanations for the common scenarios posed at the beginning of this article are as varied as your son or daughter’s unique learning profile. One reason your son may have trouble following all the directions on an assignment is that he rushes through the task and does not check his work because he would rather watch YouTube videos for the rest of the evening. He is not self-monitoring his work and seeing the task to completion. Your daughter may highlight everything because she has difficulty identifying important details or paraphrasing information to determine the main idea. She may have trouble with her working memory which affects her reading efficiency. Your son may think his teacher is torturing him with pointless assignments because he may have difficulty with perspective-taking skills. If he cannot put himself in his teacher’s shoes then he may have difficulty understanding why the task is relevant, what he is expected to learn, or predict what will be on a test.
Here are some of our favorite tips to help your son or daughter understand the gestalt. As Executive Function coaches, we often prompt students to answer these questions before they start an assignment:
Be sure this is skill-based answer, such as “to review my spelling words for the week and get ready for the test” as opposed to “to waste time before karate class.” If your child is unsure, teachers (especially middle school and beyond) often provide this information on the assignment sheet.
Emphasizing this information can be helpful to the child who spends more time making her homework look colorful and attractive than achieving the real objective, such as “write original sentences using this week’s vocabulary words.”
Here’s where rubrics rule. When there’s no rubric, such as for a reading assignment, this might be “I can retell the main ideas of the chapter in my own words.”
Our favorite way to help students remember this information is writing the answers to the questions above on a post it note on the top of the assignment, on a bulletin board or dry erase board, or any other place that is easily referenced while the student is working.
Another way to help your child is by underlining key words in directions or test questions. We consistently see students lose points because they did not include all the required parts of a given question. We sometimes recommend using different colors to highlight or underline each part of the question so each component is easily identifiable. Some students prefer to color code the question and the answer in the same color so it is easy to find. This also supports their comprehension by explicitly linking the question with the answer. Your child will have the most buy-in for a strategy like this if he or she is the one choosing the system. Finally, your daughter can put her collection of sparkly gel pens to good use with this method!
If you find your child still has trouble seeing the big picture despite trying these strategies, he or she may benefit from consistent expert support to build the skills needed.
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Lindsay Schelhorn, M.S., CCC-SLP is an executive function coach and a certified school based speech-language pathologist specializing in teenagers diagnosed with autism spectrum disorders, nonverbal learning disorder, intellectual disabilities and other social, emotional and behavioral disabilities in a variety of settings including school, and after school programs. She has ten years of experience working with teenagers on the autism spectrum in a variety of different capacities. After completing her degree in Psychology at Gettysburg College in Pennsylvania, Lindsay completed a graduate level certificate in Autism Studies through West Chester University in Pennsylvania. Lindsay graduated from Mass General Hospital’s Institute of Health Professions with her degree in Communication Sciences and Disorders in 2014. Through her work over the last three and a half years with the MGH Aspire program, she runs groups for teenagers and young adults on the autism spectrum that combine social skills development, executive functioning practice and emotional regulation skills in a group setting. Through her varied professional and educational experiences, Lindsay feels passionately about guiding teenagers and young adults to becoming more independent by increasing their confidence in functional skills, and teaching them strategies to increase their understanding and awareness of the relationship between social skills and executive functioning skills. Jackie Stachel is the Director of Communications for Beyond BookSmart. Before joining Beyond BookSmart in 2010, Jackie was a Speech-Language Pathologist at Needham High School. She earned her Master's degree in Speech-Language Pathology from Boston University, and her Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology from University of Massachusetts, Amherst. Whether it's managing our website, posting on our social media, authoring and editing blog articles, or creating presentations, Jackie Stachel, MS CCC-SLP, oversees all internal and external communications at Beyond BookSmart. In addition to her work as Director of Communications, Jackie is an Executive Function Coach for Beyond BookSmart and leads presentations for parent groups throughout Massachusetts. Additionally, Jackie manages the company blog content through editing submissions, writing articles, and collaborating with professionals from outside Beyond BookSmart. She also creates video content and is our webmaster.
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