What College Students Struggle with Most (and what you can do to help)
When you’re struggling with self-management, every day can feel like an uphill b...
Apr 03, 2017
When does a minor problem become a major problem? Sometimes the tipping point is just out of view, but it creeps up over time.
In 2013, my primary care doctor came into the room and said to me, “You’ve gained six pounds since you were last here.” Yup. That sounded about right. Seeing as I’m not a scale-watching fanatic, the comment didn’t really affect me. But that wasn’t the end of the discussion. “Six pounds isn’t a problem,” she carefully explained, “unless it’s another six next year and another six the year after that.”
I wasn’t planning on acquiring about 20 pounds over the next few years, of course, but I hadn’t really thought of my slight weight gain from that point of view. The consequences of gaining six pounds over that last year were minimal; maybe some pants didn’t fit as comfortably, but that wasn’t a terrible nuisance. If I continued at this rate, though, I may be putting myself at risk for something more serious than just replacing my wardrobe in a few years. Suddenly, “no big deal” became a warning bell to change my habits.
In the same way, weaknesses in a student’s Executive Function skill set can sometimes appear less significant than they really are. Seen in a smaller context, a challenge could be a minor inconvenience, but widen the lens a bit and we can see the ramifications of failing to acquire some core self-management skills.
Let’s take inhibition, for example. Inhibition is the Executive Function skill that helps your child avoid checking Snapchat on his phone instead of studying for a Geometry quiz. If your child has weak inhibition skills, it might wind up costing him 20 points on his quiz. Getting a 70 on one math quiz isn’t going to destroy his grade, cause him to repeat sophomore year, and ruin his chances of getting into Notre Dame. And perhaps even getting 70s on all of his math quizzes gives him the opportunity to focus his college essay on why he’s decided to major in history instead of math. So the lowered quiz scores, while not ideal, aren’t the end of the world.
But as he gets older, the necessity of strengthening his inhibition skills becomes more essential. As an adult, being unable to pull himself away from Facebook (or whatever the popular social media site for adults of 2025 will be) has more significant consequences. Checking Facebook instead of doing the dishes at home might earn him an argument with his partner. Checking Facebook at work instead of writing his quarterly report might get him fired. (And as far as I know, unhappy spouses and unemployment hurt a lot more than a C- on your high school transcript.)
Inhibition is also the skill that prevents other impulsive behaviors. For instance, in elementary school, good inhibition skills help a student remember to raise his hand instead of calling out in class. In middle or high school, inhibition helps a student to remember to check her answers on a test before handing it in. In college, students who have good skills to control impulsive behavior protect themselves from a whole world of potentially dangerous choices they could make. As you can see, the stakes increase over time.
Regulating emotions is another example of a skill that increases in importance over time. As a student, emotion regulation helps to keep your mind clear and focused even as you deal with the stress of three tests on the same day, or embarrassing gossip from fellow students, or from the glares of a teacher who just seems to have it out for you. When students feel consumed by any of these emotional distractions, it prevents them from solving the problems they represent: You freeze up on the tests rather than simply taking questions one at a time; you strain friendships rather than discussing the issues at hand; you quit on the teacher rather than working to get back into her good graces.
As with weaknesses in inhibition, the consequences only become more severe in adulthood. The same emotion regulation that keeps a student focused on tests in school keeps a disgruntled adult from posting a fiery Facebook screed about her employer (and then needing to find a new job when it goes viral).
To be clear, we’re not suggesting that earning a C- in Geometry and fighting with friends are unimportant. They’re definitely uncomfortable outcomes many students work to avoid — and, in many cases, the most important reason to avoid them is because of how these similar underlying issues can cause greater consequences down the road. In the same way that my weight gain wasn’t ideal but didn’t seem all that major (in all honesty, I hadn’t even noticed the half-a-pound-per-month accumulation), 60 pounds over the next decade could have significant detrimental effects on my health, longevity, and lifestyle. I had to begin working on maintaining a steady, healthy weight right away to avoid the more critical problems that may have been in store for me. Executive Function skill sets are very similar. Slight weaknesses might not yield catastrophic results, but left undeveloped, these same weaknesses can eventually bring about life-changing consequences.
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Brittany Peterson is a college writing instructor, certified writing tutor, and senior executive function coach at Beyond BookSmart. She began her career in education at Quinnipiac University earning a Bachelor of Arts in English and Masters degree in Secondary Education. Feeling motivated to expand her pedagogical skill set, Brittany pursued a second Masters degree in Composition and Rhetoric at the University of Massachusetts Boston. After graduating, she became a full-time lecturer at UMass Boston where she currently serves as the Assistant Director of Composition and teaches first-year composition to a diverse classroom culture including English Language Learners and nontraditional students from a variety of academic backgrounds. Brittany's experience with adult learners, diverse cultures, and a range of learning abilities has enabled her to become a flexible educator who is sensitive to individual learning needs and intrinsically invested in their educational success.
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